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    Lisa Schwaller

    Support for Overwhelmed Working Parents

    Archives for August 2020

    Magic Corner

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    Where the magic happens…

    Last day of National Wellness Month: “Share what you’re grateful for.”

    This is it for me – my coaching corner!

    Why does this space make the top of my list?

    This is where my coaching clients trust me to stay strong for their dreams even when their brains are making things seem “muddy”.

    This is where my coaches stand strong for my dreams by helping me see what my self-coaching doesn’t uncover.

    This is where my coaching peer group meets to refine our skills together lovingly and unflinchingly.

    This is where I look into my laptop video camera beyond the past and into any number of possible futures.

    This is where my bullshit goes to fertilize the garden of my dreams.

    So…yeah…this is what I am most grateful for. 💜💕❤️

    This is my most magical place on earth.

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    How Much Can You Do?

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    What do you hope to accomplish with the rest of 2020?

    What about between now and 2030?

    This month I wanted to see what I could learn from my to-do list. It was definitely eye opening!

    I found areas where I was spending too much time making a decision for no reason other than habit.

    The tasks that I “snoozed” pointed to areas where I had emotional work to clean up my thoughts and beliefs.

    What we believe about time and our relationship to time reveals what we believe about ourselves.

    It reveals the gap between desire and commitment.

    I have BIG DREAMS for my future.

    I’m sure you have big dreams, too.

    Is your relationship with yourself healthy enough to maximize how you manage your tasks and time?

    If not, reach out to me. My self-coaching is transforming my understanding of the challenges my clients face with time management, resulting in more meaningful goal plans.

    I would love to help you, too!

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    There Is Enough Time

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    This quote used to make me feel annoyed! 😁

    Why? It infers a lot of elements, including:

    • Time: 24 hrs (non-negotiable)
    • Prioritization: important or urgent; who decides?
    • Quality: best, better, good, or garbage; who decides?
    • Control: keep vs. delegate or skip; who decides?
    • Expectations: relationship with self

    What is “enough”? What is “important”? “Most”? “Everything”?

    Do you have definitions for these words that allow YOU to be set up for success?

    Think about it – almost every word in this quote is subjective!

    The first element of time management is the relationship we have with ourselves.

    Do we feel we have control over our time?

    Most of my clients (and frequently me) say NO, there is not enough time for the most important things.

    The “not enough” thought is the opening story in many coaching sessions. It’s a cover story for the relationship we have with ourselves. It’s an entry point into creating our future self.

    As your coach, we can unravel this quote until you agree with it entirely. Sans annoyance. 😌

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    Learning to Love with Coach Bailey

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    Here is Bailey, my hard to photograph best dog friend. 🐶

    In the Fall of 2018, I was standing in my lovely backyard. I had the thought, “Yes, it’s time. This yard needs a dog again.”

    Bailey and I met in December at the Houston Humane Society. She was estimated to be 6 years old at the time.

    I am 48 but only learned to love like an emotional adult in the past 2 years.

    Bailey is part of that evolution.

    She is a good practice partner in the art and skill of “unconditional love”.

    I learned to love as a gift instead of a set of rules or a shopping list of expectations for the other person.

    Love for my benefit, for me to experience, and then to radiate out into this gorgeous world.

    Coaching taught me this lesson.

    Did you know love is a decision not a feeling?

    Yes! And I help people learn how to do this!

    My clients see their relationships transform dramatically! And the other person does not change a single thing! Mind blown.

    Guiding people through this breakthrough is the closest thing to magic I’ve ever experienced.

    Benefits of learning to love like a grownup include being a better:

    • romantic partner
    • steward to humans (kids) and non-humans (pets, the planet, etc.)
    • friend
    • colleague

    Thank goodness I finally learned how to love!

    Now I’m free, and so are all the people that I love! Super cool. 💕

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    The Past

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    How much time do you spend living in your past?

    Answer my questions and we’ll see!

    In a job interview, how do you answer this request: “Tell me about yourself.”

    Are you a good parent or friend? Really? Why?

    What’s your ideal weight? Why?

    How much will you earn in 2021? What is the basis for your answer?

    Chances are that your answers were based in your past, either directly or indirectly.

    You may have selected more positive or negative experiences to create your answer. Isn’t that fascinating?

    One of the best things about being a coach is being present with the client’s future.

    My clients love to tell me about the past. At a minimum, they think it sets context.

    But…the past has zero bearing on the client’s potential to create their future.

    Zero.

    Releasing the hold on the past can set you free.

    I love this quote because it reminds me to live into my future…from the future.

    It’s one of the skills that my clients cultivate when working with me.

    If this speaks to you, call me for a consult!

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    Only So Much Time…

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    Isn’t this quote great?

    It puts a smile on my face.

    Time is great, too. Isn’t it wonderful that it’s limited?

    Time increases in value to us because it’s limited.

    • Imagine having 48 hours in a day instead of 24.
    • Imagine having 12 hours in a day instead of 24.

    What would change for you in these scenarios?

    My focus on time and task management this month has taught me that “no” is an important time management tool. I feel grateful that time puts my priorities into focus.

    Life is more challenging and rewarding because we live with this silly limitation called “time”. What do you think?

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    Fewer Decisions

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    Make fewer decisions.

    Experience less stress.

    Try it!

    As part of my August deep dive into my relationship with my tasks, I’m finding that the less I ask myself to decide, the better my choices are in the end.

    Um, what?

    I make a decision in advance. I put in on the calendar. When it’s time to do it, I don’t ask how I feel or if I wanna. I simply execute.

    This is boring AF.

    Which is why I resisted it for such a long time.

    Give it a try. Want to each more vegetables? Put it on your lunch menu in your plan the night before. Then eat the darn vegetables even if you complain about it.

    Want to work out more? Make a commitment to work out on Wed, Fri, Sun. Then do it. Even when you complain about it.

    I applied this super successfully to exercise. I work out EVERY DAY, even if it’s an active recovery day (yoga/pilates). EVERY. DAY. NO WHINING.

    Now I’m applying it to my fasting schedule.

    And setting a client coaching schedule.

    I am such a rebel and it’s working for me. I can help make sure it works for you, too.

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    Experiments in Public

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    One of the fun things I’m doing in 2020 is being more of myself.

    In public. Well, I mean, on social media. Assuming having public accounts are the same as being “in public”.

    man in green dress shirt standing on brown wooden fence during daytime
    Photo by Jakayla Toney on Unsplash

    Do you have a separated self?

    The very polite, cultured corporate self? Contrasted with the foul mouthed anti-establishment self?

    Me, too.

    Here’s to the integrated self!

    I am having the most horrifyingly wonderful time of my life experimenting “In Public”. The People Are Watching!

    What are you avoiding doing because…you know…people are watching!?!

    What would happen if you knew this was all just a game, anyway?

    Stress and relationship friction often stems from a disconnect between who we are and what we want and how we show up to get approval. I help integrate yourselves. I see it everyday with my clients.

    We can get you to feel at home in your own mind, body and soul, too.

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