Hello, lovely you,
I like to play the imagination game.
We used to do this naturally as children.
I play the imagination game a lot in my life – it’s fun and it opens up my mind to possibilities.
So, lovely you, the one who wants more intimacy in your relationship…
Imagine having sex…
5 times a week. 10 times a week. 15 times a week.
What did your mind say to you at each suggestion?
Was it like “cool”…then “um, what now?”…then “that’s just ludicrous.”
That’s what most of my clients say when I pose this thought experiment.
Now let’s go in reverse. Imagine having sex…
Once a month. Once a year. Never again.
Listen to your mind’s response.
Isn’t that amazing? We played make believe and your brain had thoughts about it!
The number of times a couple has sex together is just a number. Neutral.
It means nothing about the relationship itself or even the couple’s shared level of desire.
Read that again.
The actual sex has nothing to do with each partner’s desire or the longevity of a relationship.
Pick a number that would be your sex goal.
How many times a week or month would you like to have sex with your partner?
Then double it.
Double it again!
Write down ALL the thoughts and feelings that come up when you imagine all that sex.
What would change in your relationship, do you think?
Most importantly, would this change how you think about yourself?
Love you madly,
P.S. If this makes your mind feel kind of melty and bendy, let’s talk. I help people break open beliefs about what’s possible for their sexual relationship. Like Neo dodging bullets in the Matrix! Book a consult with me today. Open your mind.