Hello, lovely you,
Do you enjoy listening to love songs?
The other night I was out running errands and I decided to play a “80s Country Love Songs” station. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, listening to country music with my dad. Those ballads take me to a cozy, nostalgic place.
As I was listening to Alabama, Rosanne Cash, Alan Jackson, and Reba McIntyre, I had a fun thought!
Instead of singing about their eternal devotion to another person…
…what if the singer was singing about their devotion to themselves?
What if all of those love songs could be about my love for myself?
I know, I know, this sounds wacky!
But consider it?
Here’s the song that made me think of this, Johnny Lee’s “Looking for Love”:
“I was lookin’ for love in all the wrong places
Lookin’ for love in too many faces
Searchin’ their eyes
Lookin’ for traces of what I’m dreaming of”
Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places?
Other people, including your partner? Your career? Food, booze, scrolling on social media, binge watching TV or even healthier activities like studying, exercising, or improving your house?
What if all the love you ever wanted could be created inside your own self?
Which is actually how it happens, anyway.
All the love you “feel” is manufactured by your body’s chemical lab.
I find that incredibly liberating.
I create the love I want to experience, every minute of it.
If I want to feel desired, I pick that feeling on purpose and generate it. (Sometimes it comes from thinking, “Wowza, they think I’m hot stuff!” – ha! – but the feeling still comes from what I’m thinking, not what another person is doing.)
If I want to feel connected, I decide that’s what I’m going to feel.
Easy? Absolutely not, not all the time.
Here’s another of my favorite country songs, “I Believe In You” by Don Williams.
His lyrics describe my thoughts about you!
“But I believe in love
I believe in music
I believe in magic
And I believe in you”
Love you madly,
P.S. Please email to tell me your favorite love song. Is it connected to a favorite memory?