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Quittin’ Easy
Matthew McConaughey has been promoting his new online course āRoadtrip – The Highway to More.ā I watched him in a conversation with Marie Forleo. Their conversation has inspired so much deep reflection about my life. He said something that really touched my heart (minute 39): āIf I cannot do what it is that I want […]
Power Phrase: āSimplify to Amplifyā
I recently watched an amazing conversation between Marie Forleo and Matthew McConaughey. (Itās so good. Watch it here.) Marie shared one of her favorite phrases, āsimply to amplify.ā Now, where have I been all my life that I havenāt heard one of my favorite concepts said with such rhyme? Iāve also heard and love the […]
Lessons from Being āMomā
My oldest son turned 18 recently. When I was growing up, I didnāt want to be a mom. I was the oldest in an abusive family and I didnāt want to pass on dysfunction. I was opposed to the idea of being a mother and even asked my doctor about sterilization in my early 20s. […]
Choose Your Own Pace for Authentic Success
Are you happy with the pace of your life? More specifically, what do you think about the pace of your goal achievement? One of the communities that Iām in talks a lot about goals. Results. Making things happen. The strong cultural focus on outcomes makes it inevitable that there would be comparisons, whether intentionally or […]
The Disturbing Quiet of a Focused Mind
Where is your focus and attention in any given week or month? I closed out the end of last year doing a dive into where I think I spend my time compared to how I actually spend not only my time but my mental attention. I asked myself to focus on one goal (change initiative). […]
4 Love Challenges to Activate Joy
Love can be very, very playful. Isnāt that love at its best, really? Today I offer you 4 playful challenges or invitations to activate more love and joy in your life this month. #1: Tell 5 people why you love them or their work. The first challenge is to tell 5 people that you donāt […]
Exceptional Self-Listening
I told myself: āDonāt answer that email yet. It really can wait. Take a minute to listen, please.ā One of my coworkers was lashing out at team members when they were offering to help solve a problem. I could feel my blood pressure rising. āThis is unfair! Iām not doing her āhomeworkā again!ā I paused. […]
How Much Time Do You Have?
Years ago, I discovered a blog post titled āThe Tail Endā from āWait But Whyā by Tim Urban. It visually lays out the remaining experiences of a 34 year old assuming they live to the age of 90. It has diagrams for how many winters remain or pizzas will be eaten, that sort of thing. […]
Celebrating 2022’s Most Impactful Relationships
Who did you spend the most time with in the past 11-12 months? Yourself, of course. You are the only person you spend time with around the clock. And you likely have a satellite of people who are in your life regularly. Evaluating who you spend time with – and why – can be a […]
Celebrating 2022’s Most Frequent Thoughts & Feelings
Itās hard to believe another calendar year is coming to a close. Has it been what you expected? What did you accomplish? Iāve become a believer in the art and delight of celebration. Part of celebrating means āreverse engineeringā what worked well and why. As part of reflecting on your previous 11-12 months, I invite […]
What Do You Want?
The year is coming to a close. Many of us are pondering the year. What weāve created. What we want to create. Most people use January as a starting line for new (or renewed) dreams. So letās use December to connect to desire. Often, we think about what we want to do and who we […]
Gratitude & Appreciation
How do you experience the concept of āgratitudeā? What about āappreciationā? Do they feel differently to you? We are often encouraged to develop a gratitude practice. This might include starting the day with a gratitude list or ending with one, perhaps even in a journal. This is an amazing idea. And I have another one […]
Do You Take Time “Off”?
Do you take your vacation days? Do you use them to be āoffā? Iāve noticed a new phrase in the past couple of years: āreal PTO.ā (PTO = paid time off) As in, āIām trying to take a real PTO this yearā¦ā which is code for āI donāt plan to attend meetings, answer email, or […]
Leadership in Relationships
There are shelves in bookstores and pages in college catalogs devoted to leadership. There are advanced degrees, seminars, groups and organizations devoted to the topic. But I think the concept of āleadershipā is remarkably simple: Knowing who you are, what you value and why Showing up in full integrity for who you are and what […]
Do You LOVE Future You?
One of the strategies I use as a coach to understand my clientās primary mindset is to ask: āHowās the relationship with your future self?ā This question is, admittedly, fairly open ended. My clientās reactions are useful information. Do they ask for clarification? And, if they understand the concept of future self, what is their […]
Stressful Short-Term Thinking
When you are feeling stressed out, where is your mind? For some, stress keeps us in short-term worries. We sometimes canāt see a long-term future that is different from the stress we are experiencing now, and that clouds our ability to show up solving problems. I am overwhelmed at workā¦and I canāt see a time […]
Too Much of a Good Thing
Sometimes I think our modern life has too many good things. And a surprising side effect of having many attractive choices is stress. These days, we probably all know the meaning of the acronyms FOMO and JOMO.** We have a wealth of entertainment options. Career options. Even dating options. I think about what my grandmotherās […]
Being a Low Stress Friend
Are you a low stress friend? I was inspired to write this because Iāve been exploring how I show up as a friend and areas where Iām not showing up. I did a podcast episode on friendship and it really changed my perspective. For one thing, I found out that researchers have studied friendship styles, […]
Bundles of Neurons
Yes, Iām a life coach. What that really means, though, is that Iām a thought analyzer. My clients have tens of thousands of thoughts each day. Me, too, and so do you. The human mind is a thought generating machine! This is a wonderful thing, the human mindās capacity for thinking. For creating. For plain […]
Are Mistakes Okay?
Are mistakes okay? Answer with your gut, not the motivational speakerās response to āfail your way to success.ā Is it okay to make mistakes? In my culture, both the broader culture and the subculture that was my extended family, mistakes were super, really totally not okay. They meant you fāed up and should have planned […]
Game: “Majored In, Minored In”
My teenage kids make me laugh almost every day weāre together. One day my creative, somewhat sarcastic younger child made up a game: āIn college, I majored in _____ and minored in _____.ā In his example, he would use curiously paired examples like āmajored in forensics accounting and minored in interpretive dance.ā We had fun […]
Loosen the Leash
I adore my sweet dog, Bailey. Adore her. She is one of my favorite companions. She prefers to be in the same room that Iām in and is a regular podcast producer and coaching support. Her very favorite thing in this whole world is to go for a walk. She does not walk, though. She […]
People’s Opinions are Invitations
Do you love other peopleās strongly worded opinions that are the opposite of your opinions? People have a wide spectrum of reactions to other peopleās opinions. Some people are completely immune to the ideas of others. They could care less about what other people think, whether in general, about the world, about politics or even […]
When I’m 64…!
I am completely charmed by the song āWhen Iām Sixty-Fourā written by Paul McCartney when he was 14. I am quite a bit closer to being 64 now than when I first fell in love with this tune in my teen years. When I first heard it, I liked this idea of a full yet […]
Where are you?
Where are you right now? Physically. Logistically. Financially. Socially. This article is not about accepting who you are but where you are. I coach people from their 20s to their 70s. I hear the spectrum of discontent from āI should know where Iām goingā to āI should have taken another path.ā Orā¦āI need to make […]
Ask Amazing Questions
As students, we are taught to use questions as part of learning the skill of research and analysis. In fact, thereās even a Wikipedia page on the āFive Ws.ā Most of us are familiar with these questions, in a certain order: who, what, where, when, whyā¦and how. Outside of our studies/work, however, most of us […]