I want to share an idea that’s been inspiring me this week: DO IT SCARED!
By the way, I’m not talking about sex with your partner here.
At least, not in the way you might expect.
When it comes to making changes in your relationship, you might think:
- This isn’t going to work!
- We’ve tried everything!
- I don’t want to get rejected! (Again!)
It feels risky to want new things, to try new things, to hope for new things.
It feels unnatural to think about your sexless relationship in new ways, to learn to let go of the shame and blame.
It feels uncomfortable to do the deep, personal work that can change how you show up for your relationship.
Yet sometimes we leap into change even when it feels terrifying.
Think of what you’re proud of in your life.
Did it mean taking a risk?
All journeys to “better” mean leaving “this” behind. Yeah, it’s risky.
So you want a better connection with your partner.
Imagine how proud you would feel if you could create the relationship of your wildest dreams.
Have any first steps in mind?
Pick one and DO IT SCARED.
Lead by example.
Go alone, if it comes to that.
This week, notice what fears, excuses, and other brain dialogue comes up when you imagine doing a small but mighty action to build a better connection with your partner.
And then ask if it’s worth doing it even when it scares you.
Love you madly,