Lately, I’ve been thinking about what motivates people.
I hear the phrase “I have to…” often.
Yet, it’s not factually true.
We choose our actions and our commitments.
All of them.
Your brain might be shouting, “Oh, no, no! Some things I have to do!”
Don’t want to pay taxes? No problem, you can choose to pay fines or go to jail instead!
Don’t want to take care of your kids? No problem, some people don’t, you can leave anytime!
Don’t want to go to work? Whatever works for you, darling, yet you can certainly pursue an alternative (welfare, live with your dad, live by the river in a van or a tent)!
“Oh, Lisa, you’re being ridiculous! You know I can’t do that?”
Be completely honest with yourself.
You do what you do because you choose to do so.
You might be going towards something you want or away from something you don’t want.
Yet you are deciding.
Which is great news!
Few things trigger my Rebel tendency more than “have to” energy.
“Oh, yeah, watch me NOT TO!”
When you step into the power of your choice…
You might resist for a while and then…
You might feel a sense of calm wash over you.
Ah, yes, I’m cooking dinner again tonight because I want to take care of my family.
Ah, yes, I’m paying taxes because I choose to be a law abiding citizen while residing in this country.
Ah, yes, I’m going to work to earn an income and to grow myself as a person and to be a contributing member or…whatever reasons you go to work.
Does owning the power of your choice make it less stressful?
Yes, I believe so. At least that’s how it works for me.
I love being connected to my agency.
The more I step into the authority I have over my mind and actions, the more self-trusting I feel.
And then I bring that power of presence with me into the world.
So amazing that I almost felt like I “have to” share the message with as many people as possible!
Here is your homework: Pay attention to your “have to” and “want to” thoughts in the week ahead. Notice what feelings come with each option for you. Do you feel more energized when you get to, choose to, decide to and WANT to?
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