Spring is here, my friends!
I hope you’re enjoying the weather wherever you are today.
This week’s topic is inspired by a conversation I had last week.
Some people are really angry and disconnected physically in their relationships.
But the woman I was talking with is madly in love and disconnected physically in her relationship.
She is very confused at how miserable she feels being in a “wonderful” relationship.
She thinks that everything is “great” except the sex.
I wanted to see if we could turn thoughts (story) into facts (math). So I asked:
On a percentage scale, what % of your relationship would you classify as great, what % is just okay, and what % is bad?
Go ahead and ask yourself that question. Why did you choose those percentages? Which category did you rate your partnered sex – great, just okay, or bad?
It’s actually fairly common for my clients to say that 90% of the relationship is fine, 10% is bad because of the sexual connection.
Notice if that’s the case for you.
Perhaps something that’s not that big of a deal percentage-wise has become a Really Big Deal in your mind.
Pay attention to how much you pay attention to what’s great, what’s okay, and what’s bad.
Our minds do tend to focus on the things we don’t like more than the things we find wonderful.
A few more questions to ponder:
What would you like to have in your relationship?
Think about how you would set your percentage breakdowns across categories, if you could. (You can.)
What would it take to get there?
No matter where you rate your relationship, you can always choose to make adjustments. Just like Spring, there’s chance for renewal and growth.
Love you madly,
P.S. Enrolling 1-on-1 clients for April! Click here to sign up for a free coaching session if you’re curious about working with me as your coach.