Today I bring you an opportunity.
What if you decided to remember only the good stuff?
I’ve done a lot of work with my past stories.
I used to drag my past around like so much heavy luggage, trying to analyze what went wrong and why.
My past was my favorite bag of excuses, to be completely honest.
But it doesn’t serve me to carry around stories from the past.
Today’s opportunity is that the same is likely true for you.
What’s in the past is gone.
At least until someone remembers it.
I choose to live here – in the now – for my future.
The future I create with today’s choices.
Same thing for my relationship.
I can’t unsay the words or undo actions.
Neither can my partner.
Of course, I want to learn the lessons.
And yet I have decided to take it a step further.
After I learn the lessons, I selectively save the past.
And, when I do care to revisit the past, I’m going to choose to remember the good things.
When we have a memory, we’re literally creating it in real time. (Look up new science on memory – fascinating!)
If I’m going to use my mind to create something in my present, I’d rather choose that it be a good thing.
I will choose to remember the encouraging words. The fun experiences.
When I look back on the past in my relationships, I actively seek the best.
What would it be like if you and your partner talked about the old days fondly?
What if you remembered the best memories first because you practiced remembering only the good stuff?
This week, experiment with writing 3-5 of your relationship memories expecting to see the good.
Notice if this does anything to influence how you feel about your partner in the present moment.
When you remember only the good, does that cause you to create more useful thoughts in the present?
Have fun with this.
Love you madly,