Hello, lovely people,
My mind is on metrics lately. So let’s talk sex math this week!
You might think: “It’s hard to find time for sex.”
Time is a cover reason for things that we say we want yet aren’t yet 110% committed to.
There is a saying that we make time for the things that are important to us.
This is true.
And…
We often prioritize things that will have negative consequences when not done by a deadline.
Exercise? Pfft, I’ll get around to it, my body can wait. It will forgive me. Again. This work project can’t. Has to be done by Friday.
Sex? Pfft, I know making time for sex would be good for us, but my relationship can wait. My partner will deal. Again. For now, I have too much on my to-do list to make sex a priority.
Here is your homework for the week:
How many minutes does an average sexy session last in your relationship? Start to finish.
23 minutes? 92 minutes? 8?
To create a sexy, connected, intimate relationship, how much time do you want to spend on sex each week?
You get to decide.
And you get to decide if last week’s investment in sex is going to create the relationship you want.
Relationship intimacy can be built in many ways, from relaxing on vacation to working in the yard.
But sex is the one thing you and your partner share that isn’t in other relationships. (Assuming you are in a monogamous relationship with 1 person…which describes 99% of my readers.)
If this relationship is where you get sex with another person…
…and you like your choice to be in an exclusive sexual relationship…
How many minutes a week do you want to spend on this activity?
Romantic, huh, this math question?
Evaluate the real time it takes to have sex.
And ask yourself again if time is the real problem.
If time isn’t the issue…perhaps something else is in the way.
Love you madly,
Lisa
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