I had an old belief “wiggle” free and I’m as excited as a little kid losing a tooth.
Here’s the news flash: The past is over. It only lives on when you replay it in your mind.
Sure, other people in your life might have a story about the past, too.
But unless you call it up into your present awareness…it literally does not exist.
I have known this truth on a cognitive/intellectual level.
Yet it’s been subtle how much my stories about the past were affecting my decisions and actions.
Patterns from the past can definitely come up in our closest relationships.
In fact, the past is a big part of why my previous relationships have gone cold.
My personal history came into the bedroom, so to speak.
All the perceived hurts and wrongs from “before” came in, too.
All of my inability to forgive myself for my missteps.
My partner was put in a no-win situation. Me, too.
And…guess what? New partner, same pattern.
I repeated my past. Repeatedly.
Recently I let go of a profound sense of regret. This regret was subtle, deeply hidden in my mind.
I didn’t realize how much this regret over my past was impacting how I thought, felt, and acted.
It feels like a huge weight has lifted. I feel an amazing sense of possibility. It’s also uncomfortable without my trusty ol’ pattern operating on auto-pilot.
But! I am very willing to be uncomfortable in pursuit of my own freedom and growth.
Can you imagine letting go of the past in your relationship? I mean, really, truly dropping it for once and for all?
What would that be like?
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