Our minds love to wander. Consider a goal that you want, a desire that you have.
Watch your mind tell stories about what it would be like.
Does your mind tend to be positive or negative?
Most minds have a bias for the protective or risk averse, which is often labeled as “negative.”
This can be a challenge when trying to access your creativity.
Think of a decision you are contemplating or a goal that you are working toward.
Notice if your mind is trying to plan for the worst case scenario.
Worst case scenario is not real. It’s a made up thought about a made up future, a future where you are certain that you will feel something you don’t want to feel.
“If I try to improve my relationship with my partner…I’ll just drive him further away…and then the relationship will end…then I’ll be filled with regret.” (Regret = feeling not a fact)
Worst case scenario thinking is useful when used intentionally. It can point out opportunities, obstacles that you can plan for in advance.
What is the best case scenario?
Let’s ask our brain to provide this point of view for consideration, as well.
“If I try to show up as a better relationship partner…I’ll ask myself to be more honest with both my desires as well as tell the truth about what I suck at in this relationship…which will connect me with how much power I have over creating the relationship I want…which will have me living a life of integrity…which will feel super bada$$.”
(Tangent! Super bada$$, for the sake of today’s teaching, is a feeling. Not a fact. Still pretty cool. Most people would vote “yes” for “I feel super bada$$” any time, any day.)
I joke with my clients when they start going down the “Sure Road to Doomsville” in their mind, “Gee, that sounds TERRIBLE! You should definitely keep your life the same and avoid this dream! But first, have you considered the best case scenario? Let’s consider another viewpoint.”
Often, the best case scenario – in the best case – is showing up in a very intentional, self-trusting, empowered way.
One empowering life motto is: “I take responsibility for myself and today’s choices.”
I cannot begin to describe the freedom – FREEDOM! – experienced when I let other people be themselves, accepting as is, no upgrades or changes needed. None. None. None.
I set them free in my mind and free myself in the process.
You are in your power.
You cannot control circumstances or other people’s choices.
You control how you think, feel, and behave.
Best case scenario feels real and true when I’m in my best self.
Revisit that decision you are contemplating or that goal you are working toward.
Ask “what is best case scenario here?” and answer with only “I” statements.
“I show up…”
“I commit to…”
“I am willing to feel…”
I challenge you to do this exercise without expecting a person, place, or thing to be part of the results.
It’s a great addition to your toolkit of how to make decisions. Use “best case scenario” when you think you’re “stuck” or “confused” and tap into your innate creativity.
Does that sound like a good scenario?
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